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On Preaching, Part 2

Recall, gentle reader, that I said this would be a three part series? (First part is here.)

Herein is part 2. If this interests you not at all, feel free to come back once this is over and done with in a few days.

3. Scars are good, hemorrhaging is not.
This sort of falls under the ‘don’t lie’ category, but needs expansion.

You–like everyone else sitting in the pews–have struggled in your life. Things have not always gone well for you, and you’ve made mistakes, and known pain, and struggle, and loss and uncertainty. It is from that place of vulnerability that your preaching should emerge. The minute you try to assert a certainty you don’t actually feel, it will become transparently obvious. One good way to think about preaching is as one traveller, a little further on the road than the others, turning back to give a scouting report. But you haven’t gotten there either. Be honest about what you don’t know, what is unclear.

That being said, there’s a difference between being vulnerable and bleeding all over people. Please don’t bleed on people. (What would the Altar Guild say?!)

Never bring up anything personal in a sermon that you haven’t worked through previously. Sermons aren’t about just you–they’re about the whole community. So when you bring up something that you’ve struggled with, make sure you’ve got some closure there. You don’t want to make the congregation feel like they need to therapize you in the middle of the service.
Ultimately, this is a fine line.
But this is also why God has given us friends, therapists and spiritual directors.

4. You are not a Baptist.

This is sad, but true.
Baptists are taught to preach ENTIRELY differently than Episcopalians. The service is different, the expectations from the congregation are different, everything is different.

So: though we may envy the ability of the Baptist preacher to preach for 30, 45 minutes, or even an hour, at a stretch, this is not your calling.
Your calling is to say one thing (ONE THING), to say it well, and then to sit yourself down. Not three points, not (God forbid) five points, and not a discursive exegesis on the Greek translation of that one word which is only found in 3 other places in the New Testament, yet once also in the Odyssey.
Sometimes it is very tempting. Sometimes there is a lot to say about the text. This should not surprise us–it is Holy Scripture. But in 99% of cases, you are going to see these people again. They are not going anywhere. You will get another shot at them.
And in 100% of cases, you need to trust in the working of the Holy Spirit to continue whatever work God has begun in them, and not attempt an entire Christian Formation course within your single sermon.
Pick. One. Thing.

Then, sit down.

Toddlers, and Object Permanence

Today, when I woke up this morning and discovered that our government would not be working today, I stomped around, made coffee, stomped around some more, and scared the cat.
I wondered what this would mean for one of our food distribution programs at the church, which channels federal funds through the states to give out groceries once a month (spoiler: not right now, it won’t! Which is great because it’s not like we didn’t just cut WIC or SNAP). And I posted snarky things to Twitter.

Then, still fuming in a manner worthy of a cartoon character, I drove to school. I led chapel with the preschool, and I looked at zoo animals with Pre-K (there was a sugar glider and a boa constrictor). And I decided to eat lunch with the toddler class.

Toddlers are adorable, and charismatic, as anyone can tell you. However, they lack certain basic skills–like the ability to pour milk reliably without spilling, or the ability to ask for what they need, or the ability to problem-solve, past “I want my cake now.” This is never on better display than lunchtime.

But their teachers were brilliant. Every two seconds, they calmly interjected, “Use your words.” “You can’t eat your cake now–what will you have for your dessert?” “You can’t take his sandwich, because what will he have to eat?”

Again and again, they tried to teach the toddlers to think outside themselves. It was lovely.

Let’s send them to Congress.

(Here’s what I said on Sunday. It relates to toddlers, too.)

September 28-29, 2013
Ordinary Time, Proper 21, Year C
Luke 16:19-21

There’s this concept in child psych development called object permanence. The idea is that infants don’t realize that when they aren’t looking at something, it still exists. They close their eyes, it vanishes.
Babies get over the initial phase of this pretty quick—you won’t find a toddler all that amused by peek-a-boo at 2 or 3 years old.
But from this initial concept flow other, more subtle ideas: teachers must live at school. Priests must live at church, when it’s clear that this only REALLY holds true during Holy Week. Toys might come alive at night, since I’m no longer watching them.
Basically, the idea that people only do the things I see them do. They perform the roles I assign in my life’s drama. And that’s it.

And most of us, MOST OF US, get over this. We grow up. We move beyond. It’s called maturity. And we get there…

Except, evidently, for rich man in the parable today—This rich man, who interestingly has no name–he goes his entire life–everyday!. Living his life, with Lazarus right in front of him, right by the gates of his house.
Their lives are described as happening in parallel–the rich man had food, Lazarus had scraps. Rich man had a big house, Lazarus lived on the streets. Rich man lived in comfort, Lazarus lived in misery, plagued by an icky skin disease, and dogs who would lick the sores. (Which has to be one of the grossest descriptions in the gospels. Ew.) Then they both died.
Connected lives they led–practically tripping over each other too. Lazarus lived right outside the rich man’s house. He begged from the rich man’s table. He knew exactly who and what the rich man was.
Yet the rich man never noticed, never acknowledged him.

And then parallels end. They die– The rich man goes to torment, Lazarus to bliss…though I’m going to pause and point out that this description of the afterlife isn’t our current cultural understanding of heaven with the singing cherubs, puffy clouds and harps, up above, with hell as a fiery pit of torment far below. (It’s another sermon, but that’s something that’s more Dante and the middle ages, than actual Jesus.)

What Jesus is describing is the Jewish version of the afterlife, where all the dead people end up in essentially the same place, on the same plane of existence–its just a question of how happy you get to be when you get there. Clearly, the rich man is less happy than Lazarus.

And so, the rich man asks Abraham to send Lazarus to do something for him, please! I need some water, pronto. Because eternal torment is so very hot and thirsty.

This is pretty breathtaking gall. They’re DEAD. It’s OVER, there’s no power left to be won or fought over, and the rich man is still ordering Lazarus around like that’s all he’s good for. .
Even now, EVEN NOW, the rich man hasn’t gotten it.
Because when Abraham vetoes that first suggestion, the rich man still keeps going, and tries to send a resurrected Lazarus to save his brothers from his fate. (Note that he does not volunteer to go himself.)

But as Abraham says–that won’t fix it. The problem here isn’t that the rich man didn’t know what was right during his lifetime. The problem wasn’t that he was confused or ignorant, or even mean. He probably was perfectly nice to those around him.

The problem wasn’t any of those things–the rich man’s problem was that time and again, and even after death! he failed to see Lazarus. He failed to see him for what he truly was– a fellow child of God, worthy of his recognition and care as an equal.
To the rich man, Lazarus was a set-piece, a prop. Someone there to do his bidding, to get him what he needed.

That was how the rich man thought of the world and it so shaped how he thought, that he couldn’t see anything else. He couldn’t see the suffering of Lazarus. He couldn’t see his humanity, or how much they had in common, or even how he might help him.

Because to the rich man, he probably never really thought about Lazarus, since Lazarus never seemed to him as a fully-formed child of God, with thoughts, dreams, and a life of his own. Lazarus never appeared to him as real, as worthy of full consideration, and until that happened, the rich man was stuck.

It’s easy, in the busyness of life, to start shrinking people down. To start believing that people are here for uses, to reduce them to functions and what purpose they can serve. It’s easy to believe, on a very busy afternoon, that the checkout lady in Target is there only to wait on you….and that she isn’t also there to make ends meet, feed and clothe herself. It’s easy to assume, if we’re not careful,that the homeless man on the corner is there only to wave his sign and collect money…and had no life previous to this moment, or life after this.
And it’s easy to give in to the voices in our public discourse that shrink entire groups of people into stereotypes, the better to make us afraid and keep them in power. How often have we heard that it suggested the poor are lazy, and it’s their fault if they can’t make ends meet? Or if you are sick, well, it’s on you to get better, and if you can’t, then that’s probably your fault somehow. Or how often have we heard a so-called Christian preacher threaten of a great End-Time Battle, where blood will flow in the streets, and all the righteous will be saved, at the cost of the unrighteous…who evidently were just there to prove a point?

Our government is about to tear itself apart right now, because Congress can’t let go of these two-dimensional images of the sick and the poor. That’s how far this has gotten. That’s what this leads to.

It should probably go without saying, but there is nothing Christian about that. There is nothing Christian in shrinking each other down. There is nothing Christian about letting everything fall apart, because we can’t take the time or energy to see the full humanity in each person.

It might be easier, quicker, more politically expedient to deal in stereotypes, and 2-dimensional figures, but that’s not where Christ calls us. Christ calls us to find the image of God, the full, complete person in everyone we meet. Not just the part that makes us comfortable or that meets our needs.
Even when the person we encounter is not like us, even when they do things we disagree with,, even when they are quite literally needy,— when our recognizing their humanity means that they need something from our abundance, and we have to do something to accommodate them.
Even then.
We are called upon to recognize the fullness of each person. As a full person. As a full child of God.
Only in that way, will we begin to see the fullness of what God is up to in this world.
Because the real tragedy in the story of Lazarus and the rich man is that these two never got to know each other here on earth. This rich man, who counted himself among the faithful of God, never got to see the love of God working in the life of Lazarus.
As people who follow Christ, we owe it to ourselves to see the Spirit of God working in each and every life. Because that is too good to miss.

Have Red Shoes, Will Move to the Midwest

By now, it’s become social-media official:  as of August 1, I am leaving Flagstaff for the flatlands of the mid-Midwest, and a new call in Kansas City, Missouri.  I will be the Assistant Rector, and Day School Chaplain at St. Paul’s Episcopal Church, Kansas City.

 
I am excited about this, I really am.  The new parish is awesome.  They announced my birthday on Facebook with a math riddle.  They think my social media habits are amusing, and not terrifying.  When I shrieked like a toddler over discovering that the start of the Oregon Trail video game was actually in Kansas City, which meant that MY OXEN TEAM WAS NOT DEAD YET, OH MY GOSH, they did not count this against my obvious maturity and ability to be a functioning ordained person in God’s one, holy, and apostolic church.  (Gold star. Seriously.)  And they also have an amazing commitment to outreach and social justice, and sense of humor, and I can’t wait to work with them.  
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But while I’m thrilled to start this new chapter, this also means I have to leave.  And I do not care for leaving.  Leaving means goodbyes, goodbyes imply loss.  
 
Leaving is never pleasant.  
For one thing, because moving requires me to truly come to grips with how many shoes and books I own, and reveal that information to unsympathetic movers.  (When I moved to Flagstaff, the mover made me promise to never move to a walkup higher than first floor again.  Or else sell every single book I owned, “because, lady, this is excessive”)
 
But most especially because leaving a place that I have liked as much as this one is never easy. 
The quirky, sweet parishes, the supportive and wise ministry colleagues, and the amazing, inspiring students, who have all conspired to make this job a joy-filled one each day, and who have taught me so much about persistence and bravery, faith and community.
 
I have been blessed beyond words to have been the chaplain here in Northern Arizona for the past few years, and part of the story of this place.  Now the story of the chaplaincy here moves on, and my own story moves on.  
But the wonder of stories like this is that they never end, not truly, and nothing is really lost.  As God spins out our stories, they carry forward all the fragments of who and where we were before, into the future that God envisions.   
So the imprints of the people we meet, the experiences we have are never far–even as we move on.  It always gets woven in to the next chapter, and the next and the next after that.
  
Whatever exactly comes next, it will be an adventure.  But I also know that this adventure will be accompanied by the mischievous love of God, which is nothing if not adventurous, and possessed of a better sense of humor than I ever will be.  
 
So here I go!

One day

One day, I will be able to go six months without having to plan a vigil to remember some horrific act of violence. That will be a great day.

That is not this day, however.

NAU Canterbury will be holding a vigil on campus this week (most likely Wednesday, it now appears) to remember those suffering in Boston, as well as those who died in Newtown, and around the country as a result of the violence in our world.

Here’s the liturgy I’ve written for this.

(NOTE: this is the initial draft, and as such, hasn’t been approved by my ecumenical colleagues.  So please don’t hold this against them.)

 

Vigil for Victims of Violence 2013

April 2013

 

Opening: (words to this effect: admittedly, I tend to overwrite liturgy)

 

Leaders: (alternating) We have come here in deep emotion: grief, sorrow and shock.  We have come here in anger, frustration, and even numbness.  Again and again, in the past few months, we have seen the violence in our world, arriving on our very doorsteps, splashed across our televisions and computers.

 

What we have witnessed is overwhelming.

 

As people of faith, we know that God is with us, even now.  We know that God is with those who are suffering.

We know these things, even when it is hard to feel that they are true.

 

And so tonight, we bring our tears and our anguish, our frustration and our fear, and our sense of powerlessness to the God who chose to suffer with this world.

 

Let us pray.

 

Holy God, as Mary stood at the foot of the cross, we stand before you with broken hearts and tearful eyes.  Keep us mindful that you know our pain, and free us to see your resurrection power already at work in the world around us.  In your time, raise us from our grief as you have raised those we’ve lost to eternal life; through Jesus Christ our Lord.

Amen.

 

Let us remember those we have lost.  As a sign of respect and remembrance, as you read the names given to you, please stand.

Students read the names, alternating.

 

  • For the 28 people killed in Newtown, CT at an elementary school.
  • For the many who have died at Virginia Tech, Columbine, and other schools around our country.
  • For the six people killed in Tucson, AZ at a grocery store.
  • For the thirteen people killed in Aurora, CO at a movie theater
  • For the seven people killed in Oak Creek, WI at a Sikh temple
  • For the three people killed, and hundreds wounded, at a Boston marathon
  • For the thousands who die every day on the streets of Chicago, Detroit, Washington DC, and all of our cities, whose names are known to God alone.
  • For hundreds of victims of accidental shootings and stray bullets.
  • For victims of domestic violence and abuse.
  • For all those left to mourn the dead, and care for the wounded.
  • For those so lost and confounded that violence appears to be the best answer.

 

 

Leader: For all these named, and for all those we’ve lost that we name now, we pray.

We name the victims we know personally here.

 

Everyone should be standing now.  We observe a period of silence. Then…

 

Reader 1: Who will separate us from the love of Christ?  Will hardship, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?…No, in all these things, we are more than conquerors through him who loved us.  For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, or rulers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

 

Reader 2: The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.

 

Reader 3: Jesus said to his followers:

Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven

Blessed are those who mourn; for they will be comforted.

Blessed are the meek; for they will inherit the earth.

Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for justice, for they will be filled.

Blessed are the merciful, for they will receive mercy.

Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.

Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

 

Leader: As people of faith, and as followers of Jesus, this is who we are called to be.  This is how we are called to live.  Even in a world of violence.  Especially in a world of violence.  We are called to bear the light of Christ’s peace and illuminate the darkened world around us.  We are called to be the helpers.

Let us pray.

 

Prayer of St. Francis

Lord, make us instruments of your peace.  Where there is hatred, let us sow love.  Where there is injury, pardon; where there is discord, union; where there is doubt, faith; where there is despair, hope; where there is darkness, light; where there is sadness, joy.  Grant that we may not so much seek to be consoled as to console; to be understood as to understand; to be loved as to love.  For it is in giving that we receive; it is in pardoning that we are pardoned; and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

Amen.

 

Let us go forth, to be light for the world, salt for the earth, peacemakers in a troubled time.

And may the blessing of God Almighty, Creator, Redeemer, and Sustainer, keep us now and forever in peace.

 

 

 

Prayers for Newtown

I’ve compiled some prayers for my students here, dealing with the Newtown massacre. These are taken from the BCP and from Enriching Our Worship 2, but in several places, I’ve tweaked the language a bit, for post-modernity’s sake.

If you come across others, awesome blog-readers, post in comments, won’t you?

Keep watch, dear Lord, with those who work, or watch, or weep this night, and give your angels charge over those who sleep. Tend the sick, Lord Christ, give rest to weary, bless the dying, soothe the suffering, pity the afflicted, shield the joyous, and all for your love’s sake. Amen.

O God of mercy and compassion, you have taught us in your Holy Word that you never willingly afflict or grieve the hearts of your children; look with pity, we pray, on the sorrow of your people for whom we pray. Remember them in your mercy, nourish their souls with patience, shine your face upon them and give them your peace. Through Christ our Lord. Amen.

Oh God our strength in need, our help in trouble: stand with us in our distress, support us in our shock, bless us in our questioning, and do not leave us comfortless, but raise us up with Jesus Christ. Amen.

God, as Mary stood at the foot of the cross, we come before you with broken hearts and tearful eyes. Keep us mindful that you know our pain, and free us to see your resurrection power beyond this present darkness. In your time, raise us from our grief as you are raising these who have died to eternal life, through Jesus Christ our Savior. Amen.

God our deliverer, gather up our horror and pity for the deaths of your children in Newtown, into the compass of your wisdom and strength, that through this night, we may seek and do what is right, and when the morning comes, trust ourselves to your cleansing, merciful justice, and abundant new life, through Christ our Savior. Amen.